For anyone not aware of my situation, me and my husband are currently still living 4000 miles apart from each other. It’s been this way for over 2 years now and we’re going through a year long visa process so I can go and join him in America as a permanent resident (read more about how our story began HERE). So I’m no stranger to solo travel. I met the other half while travelling solo in Jamaica, we spend hours alone on flights, we only see each other in person a few times a year and he’s lovely enough to not hold me back from travelling when we can’t be together. But being married has changed my view on solo travel.
Yesterday was Valentine’s Day. When you’re in a long distance relationship, Valentine’s Day isn’t really any different from any other day! Me and my other half aren’t bothered about celebrating it. It holds no real relevance to us (it’s not a day where we met, got engaged and it’s not our wedding anniversary), we’ve spent the last 3 apart and don’t need a certain day to let each other know that we love them. Distance makes us feel a bit like a power couple. If we can get through this temporary situation, surely we can get through anything that life throws at us. Here are 5 qualities that make long distance couples the strongest in the world!
We’ve all seen the pictures on Facebook ‘Please show my class how far this photo can go round the world’, you comment with your location and that’s that, it’s not teaching them anything about these locations, I guess you just end up as a dot on a map? To be honest, I tend to ignore these completely. However, last week I received some mail from my little bro-in-law in the States, his Pre-K class at Elementary School were doing a project and I threw myself into it whole heartedly!
Because of our situation, it was easier for us to get married in a registry office. We were allowed to choose two readings for during our ceremony BUT they weren’t allowed to contain any mention of religion. I had no idea where to start so randomly searched for quotes in Pinterest and Google that would suit a marriage of a long distance couple. The ‘Apache Wedding Blessing’ was on the short list, but these were the two that turned out perfect for us!
I had never been one for the whole ‘girliness’ of a wedding, so rather than do what was expected, I scrapped everything and done it in a way that stayed true to who I am. I’m proud of our story, the fact that we didn’t let the 4000 miles that separated us, get between us, so I almost wanted our wedding to be a celebration of that because it is such a HUGE part of our relationship. So here’s how we created our multi-national travel themed wedding.
Hardest. Decision. Of. My. Life.
Surely it shouldn’t be, I’m moving to be with my soul mate? It did nearly break us. In the ‘early’ days, we know someone would have to give up everything they’ve ever known and make the 4000 mile journey across the pond. We were at a stale mate. It came down to one thing, despite spending close to 56 hours a week in my work van, I don’t meet the UK requirement in terms of what I needed to earn to be able to sponsor Jesse’s visa. It was all down to me.
Everyone seems to go all gooey whenever I have to re-tell the story of how me and Jesse met. It’s been referred to as a fairy tale and makes people feel happy that despite all the negativity in the world, there are still glimpses of positivity.