Emigrating is a selfish decision. Yep I’m allowed to say it, I’m the one who emigrated after all. I made my decision knowing that leaving would upset a lot of people and it made me feel like a horrible, awful person. So I done a Q&A with my Mum, to find out the true effect on the family that’s left behind. Hopefully this will be a useful insight for other parents/’grown up’ children who are in the same situation!
I’m going to share a secret with you. I purchased a book that became my LIFESAVER when filling out my USA Marriage visa. It was literally my guide, I referred to it each time I had a form to fill out and it obviously worked as all of my forms were accepted first time and I never had any ‘corrections’ to fill in and return.
One of the hardest things about emigrating is that I can’t help but feel I’m losing out on the precious time I should be spending with my Grandparents (and Parents). I’m in my late 20’s and I feel lucky to still have 2 out of 4 living, they were able to see their oldest Grandchild get married, they even witnessed the proposal (even though it did nearly give my Grandad a heart attack!) and I’m proud to have been able to let them have that experience. They’ve watched me grow up, but have you ever wondered what it was like when they were growing up? ASK them! LEARN from them! It’s amazing and you won’t regret it.
How bad do I feel? I’m the eldest ‘child’, my parents had my sister so I’d always have a friend in life no matter what. And now I’m moving 4000 miles away with a whole ocean between us. I hope we NEVER feel like we are an only child because we won’t get to see each other as often as we may like, no matter how far apart we are we will always be Sisters and I’ll always be on the end of a FaceTime call. So this post, is for you, my (soon to be *sniff*) long distance Sister, Lisa.
Yesterday was Valentine’s Day. When you’re in a long distance relationship, Valentine’s Day isn’t really any different from any other day! Me and my other half aren’t bothered about celebrating it. It holds no real relevance to us (it’s not a day where we met, got engaged and it’s not our wedding anniversary), we’ve spent the last 3 apart and don’t need a certain day to let each other know that we love them. Distance makes us feel a bit like a power couple. If we can get through this temporary situation, surely we can get through anything that life throws at us. Here are 5 qualities that make long distance couples the strongest in the world!
The UK Marriage Visitor Visa is aimed at those that want to get married AND give notice of marriage in the UK but will then return home. For example in our situation, I was a Brit living in the UK, my other half was an American living in the USA and we wanted to get married in England. He returned home and I stayed in England and then went through the USA Green Card process once we were married.