Life in the States as an Immigrant

I hold my hands up, I’m an immigrant.  I’m living in America on an immigrant visa.  I know especially in the blogging community, the word ‘Expat’ is thrown around a lot and I admit this is what I tend to refer to myself as, but in fact, I am an immigrant.  But can you really blame me for not really using this term at the moment?  Just look at the news, it has so much bad press and I debated as to whether or not I should pipe up and say my view.  But as an immigrant, and especially one that blogs about the visa process, I thought surely I should show what it’s like through my eyes?

The other day, there were protests in some USA cities called ‘Life Without Immigrants‘.  Immigrants were encouraged not to turn up to work, skip school and not go out in public and use restaurants etc to show what America would be like without immigrants.  Does that mean I shouldn’t have gone to work that day?  But lets face it.  The majority of America are from immigrant descendants.  My ‘all American’ in-laws (and now me) even have a last name that probably has German/European origins.  Just look at Iowa, there are towns with Dutch, Norwegian and German heritage just to name a few!

So lets get things straight.

I went through the visa process and first entered the States as an immigrant when OBAMA WAS PRESIDENT.

Throughout the whole process.  I felt like a criminal and violated as a human being.

I’m white and British.

When I tell my work colleagues what I went through to get here, they are pretty shocked.  So today I share some of the shocking parts of my experience of the USA visa process.

My paperwork took 9 MONTHS to complete.

During this time I was forced apart from my Husband.  Sound familiar?  Families being forced apart?  Yep, happens to EVERYONE.  We had ONE WEEK of married life together before he was back in the States and I was left in the UK.  It took over 10 months before we were back together.

And guess what.  I was advised that I really shouldn’t enter the USA at all during these 9 MONTHS as there’s a chance that I’d get turned away at the border.  3 months sounds like nothing now doesn’t it?

Ironically, we both flew into Mexico and met across the border.  Good ole Mexico.

I had to have a background police check.

Nothing unusual about that.  Well what if I told you I had to get a ‘high up’ friend (NOT a family member) to vouch for me that I was a good person.  Essentially putting his reputation on the line.  Luckily our neighbour in the UK who I’ve known for a long time now, is a bank manager and thankfully that occupation was one of the few accepted ones.  How many bank managers do you know on a personal level?

I had to get butt naked in front of a doctor (TMI ALERT).

Fair enough, if I had a problem or was having a baby or something this wouldn’t have bothered me.  But I was made to do it because they wanted to check every inch of my body in case I had any rashes/infections that they didn’t want me bringing into America, no area or opening was left un-touched.  I have never felt so violated in my whole life.  If all my injections weren’t up to date, they would have also pumped them into my arm one after another.  There was a list of around 10 I had to have covered.  Due to all my travel habits, I had kept most up to date over the years so I only had to have one on the day of my medical.

I have to play by the rules OR I’LL BE DEPORTED.

It’s written all over the visa paperwork.

Do something wrong:


Don’t keep on top of your paperwork:


Enter on a marriage visa and split up before 2 years:


When you enter legally, the big D word is written in black and white.  Don’t play by the rules or keep your visa up to date and you will be kicked out.  My Green Card has a 2 year condition on it.  Before it reaches the 2 year point, I have to fill in MORE paperwork and send off MORE money to prove that I’m still married to the person I was when I first applied for the visa.  This is to stop sham marriages, people getting married just to get a Green Card.  It means you’d have to be married to them for at least 3 years before you can stay here ‘without them’.  Once this form has been accepted, my Green Card is then valid for the full 10 years…and in 10 years…yep more money to renew it again.

Wanna know how much it costs to enter the States legally on a visa?  I shared the total 2016 cost in THIS POST.  This total doesn’t even include future fees that keep me here legally.

It’s gone crazy.  I’m part of a Brits in the USA Facebook group and this whole thing has even got them debating as to whether or not they should be going for citizenship.  They are scared that no immigrant is safe anymore if Green Cards are being threatened to be taken away and they don’t want to be split up from their families.

So in summary, the immigration process has sucked for all nationalities, not just the ones that are currently all over the media.  It also sucked during Obama’s presidency.  Trump just wants everyone to be legal and have better background checks, I’ve been through hell and paid an arm and a leg to do it the right way so you can imagine what it feels like for someone like me when others don’t play by the rules.

Immigrant in the USA

13 thoughts on “Life in the States as an Immigrant

  1. I’ve been here for 11yrs, live in the Dallas/Ft Worth area and did all my paperwork in the U.K. whilst deployed in Iraq.

    I became a US Citizen in 2011 and promptly learned US Citizens are liable to global taxation…. something to be aware of if you have interests elsewhere!!


    1. Hey! Yes, I heard that! I have a family friend who is a dual citizen (one of his parents was American) and even though he lives in the UK he has to file taxes, although he just puts zero earnings!


  2. i have been in the states 25 years and at least once a week i wake up or don’t sleep both amazed still and astounded by the inability of one of the richest western countries in the world (that spends enormous amounts on war but) who can’t devise a single payer nationally encompassing all citizens system for health and medical care. It should be a right not a privilege! They do it for the military and medicare/aid they have UK, Canada, France, Germany and Japan to name a few from which to compare and make their own version hopefully the best of all of them but they don’t and never will while this is in affect the ‘united corporations of America’. Its disgraceful and really worrying to consider that any family not part of the 1% – 15% richest could fine themselves made bankrupt through medical costs, lose their home, car everything just because they fell ill. I too was victimized to put it mildly by immigration and was held for 5 hours on my initial arrival and it took 2 years to get my paperwork sorted and yes I was smartly dressed holding a return ticket, in a line with a hippie/ruck-sacked backpacker in-front of me who never even got stopped not that looking ‘casual’ is indicative of a criminal type. I was never given even a decent reason why I was stopped and to top it all I missed my connecting flight. This was 25 years ago so nothing changes. Maybe that should have been a ‘red flag’. And to tax ordinary people when they are not even living in the country well that says it all when you know Apple has billions offshore and pays little to no taxes!


    1. Thanks for your comment! Really interesting to read that you had a similar experience 25 years ago! Yeah it really needs to be sorted out, but I guess they are in too deep now?


      1. Why fix it when it’s one of this Nations biggest money spinners… heck have you seen what a kid has to pay to play soccer here!?


  3. I just found your blog and it has cheered my heart. Just like you, I’m a British girl trying to get to the US to live with my husband – my interview is in 3 weeks (and my medical in a couple of days) but we started this process a year ago. A couple of weeks ago was our first anniversary – the whole process has been so demeaning and it has been hard to find anyone to talk to about it. People assume it is an easy process and we’ve had lots of US family telling us “you’re married, why is it taking so long!?” – like that will make it feel better. Anyway, late to the party, but glad to have this to read through. I hope life is well with you – Natalie xx

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    1. Hi Natalie! I completely understand how you feel! I actually have another post coming up soon all about how the visa process doesn’t stop once you get to the USA! I have to remove my 2 year conditions next year…more paperwork…and then there’s the whole do you or do you not go for citizenship! Everyone thinks it’s over now I’m in the country! Good luck with your medical and interview, I’m sure it will all go fine! I’m always here if you need a chat (or someone to rant your expat life frustrations at!), feel free to email me if you don’t want to do it publicly through the comment section!


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